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My (Ex)Girlfriend Situation?

Yesterday while we were in my car my girlfriend started talking about she worries that we're not close anymore. We started talking about this and that and it ended with me telling her the sad truth: I have no lust for her. We've done things and had sex once last week, but I've just discovered that I'm not attracted to her at all. She doesn't put any effort into her appearance, doesn't shave "you know where" and I just let her here it. I really care about this girl and didn't wannt to hurt her feelings, but that was the truth and it needed to be said. She's said before that when I joked about letting myself go and letting my hair grow out how unattractive it is for a guy to not care about what other people think of him, yet she also believes that I should be attracted to her no matter how much she lets herself go, yet she doesn't even try. When I dress to the nines, she doesn't wear makeup, when I buy her a pandora bracelet, she buys me an athletic shirt for $8 (with 20% employee discount of course). Basically this relationship is over, but we haven't said it yet. She basically left saying "I can't believe your saying this, I need to think about it for a while.." I think I kinda blindsided her... oh well I'm sorry for that... What do you think of the situation?

Public Comments

1. listen to her and if you wanna keep it going, try to make it work
2. Yeah... get out. There are better people. this happens to a lot of people.
3. You kinda sound like a jerk. If it's not a fixable situation, even if she does try to "fix" herself up...then you probably should have just broken things off with her saying you weren't "feeling" it anymore, instead of crushing her spirit.
4. I agree with you, the relationship is over. Just tell her that so you can stop wasting time and move on with your life. I know it's hard to do, but I think you'll be relieved when it's officially over.