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Discount designer clothes for children?

Hi, My partner has a 4 year old daughter with his ex. His ex only allows their daughter to wear expensive or designer clothes ie clothes from House of Frasier, Baby Gap, Pumpkin Patch, DNKY, etc. My partner and I can't afford and don't believe in paying £50 for a t-shirt for a child that is going to grow out of it in a few months - of course we want her to have nice comfortable clothes but we don't believe that that means paying £50-100 for a designer t-shirt or trousers. We have bought loads of clothes for her from H&M, Next, Debenhams, Mothercare etc but she never wears them and we just found out that as soon as the mother saw the label she just binned them. My partner has just finished uni and is having trouble fining a job with his degree and can only get work for 6 week periods and then nothing for weeks so he doesn't have a steady income coming in. Even with this he still pays her maintenance directly to her even though the CSA told him he doesn’t have to pay maintenance and refuses to take money from him. When he does get money in he always buys her something, nothing big but something small like some new outdoor toys, or a game etc but nothing extravagant but this is not good enough - the mother expects something around £100 spent on her nearly every week. I have a full time job at the minute but am being made redundant at the of July and going back to finish my degree in September, but after I pay rent for myself and my partner and household bills I only have £200 left to live for the rest of the month so I can't afford to give my partner a lot of money to spend on designer clothes. We have tried to explain that she doesnt need to be in designer clothes all of the time (especially as she is not allowed to get them dirty as they just get binned straight away - not washed just binned as she decides that they are no good anymore) and that we can't afford to dress her in them but that clothes from Next, H&M, etc are just as good. Does anyone know of any websites that sell designer clothes but at a discount price? Thanks for any help! I agree, I don;t want to support her habbit but she is treatening to stop my partner's access to his daughter if he does not provide his daughter with what she expects and the standard she sets. She has even got her solicitor confirming this in writting to us. We have tried talking to her and through the solicitor but we have got no where she is a very manipulative person and "is not right in the head". My partner no longer has contact with the mother due to harassment and abuse she put us both through over the last two years. The mother isn't well off - she has a part time job and claims any benefits she can - she doesnt tell the benefits people she has a job - but to be buying designer clothes and the latest technology etc for the child she must be getting more than enought money

Public Comments

1. Why buy designer wear, it's just stupid and unnecessary. Next time she comes over go for an excursion to a farm let her roll in cow shit and have a whale of a time, then send her home in those clothes eating a gelati. That would be great to watch.lol
2. if that is what you are really looking for, try google. I doubt that is what you are looking for though. You want people to confirm your belief that this situation is ridiculous, or else you wouldn't have written all of that background. You would have just used the last two sentences. I agree that this situation, if real, is ludicrous. What i don't understand is why you are masquerading your real statement with the question that you are asking. maybe you should ask how to resolve the situation instead of how to enable it, that way you would get productive answers from the yahoo masses instead of general baffled outrage from users. I hope the comments have confirmed in your mind that you are righteous in not wanting to supply the child with insanely expensive clothing. I suggest taking a more productive and direct route to resolving these issues in the future, preferably a method that involves more human interaction and less internet.
3. I wouldn't buy her designer clothes either. You just do the best you can with the clothes you buy and don't worry what the mom does. You know she will only get worse if you keep after her. She may buy expensive clothes because of what the dad and her put their child through. It's stupid for the dad not to talk to the mother. That doesn't benefit the child at all. There are too many emotions at play.
4. Contact the court about visitation rights and once he has them, tell her to run and jump and if she stops him from seeing his child, he will see her in court. As for claiming benefits she's not entitled to, I have a suspicion you may not want to do this, but report her. This isn't right for her to get money she's not entitled to and because she's getting away with it, she's trying it on with your boyfriend. This may make her jump on you for more money, but stick to your guns that she gets what the courts say she can get and nothing more and if she cancels the visits, take her to court. Stop buying the daughter clothes, especially if they end up in the bin and stop buying her gifts, I know that your boyfriend likes to buy things but if you're not careful, his daughter will end up like mum - expecting presents and gifts and will eventually not want it because it's cheap. I know it's going to be hard but it has to be done. Good luck. KD
5. That's just rıdıculous and stupıd - why be such a snob about clothes when you are havıng trouble makıng ends meet?